[browneyedgrl1110]

As some of you know or can tell by my signature I am getting married August 1st of this year. The problem now is that my fiance Dave just found out last night that his company wants to cut 12% of all the employees pay. They already had a 10% cut in January. If this happens we will lose our house. He is a truck driver and his union will not accept this which means that in a month he will not a have a job!!! That is around the same time we get married! We cant buy anything else for the wedding because we cant afford it and we arent done yet. He is looking at other jobs and most don't pay what he needs to earn to have the house running, and if he wants to earn more he may have to go over the road which means he will be gone for 2 to 3 weeks at a time! I just want to cry!! I dont know what to do. I have applied everywhere for a job and where we live the unemployment rate is 12%. I just want to throw a tantrum. I starting couponing to help him out I just wish I could do something else. I even tried applying at mcdonalds but they arent hiring!

[jeanettebr]

First I want to say congrats on your upcoming nuptials and PLEASE don't let all this spoil your wonderful day. It's about the two of you and your love for each other....even if you don't have everything at your wedding you want it's still going to be wonderful!
I would love to help you if I can....maybe post about how your getting married...style I mean...and what you still need and see if anyone has ideas or things they can pass along to you

I am very sorry your having to think about things like money right now. Your on the right track with couponing! I stay at home because its saves us more money for me to do that and couponing etc than I would working a minimum wage job...

Hang in there....and you know what? If you want to throw a tantrum ...go ahead! Sometimes it helps just to scream, cry and kick your feet...and rant on here!

[meandmy3boys]

Thinking of you & hoping that everything works out for you. I will say a little prayer for you & your fiance' & hope that things turn around for you. Hang in there.

[Smurfytigger]

I agree with Jeanettebr--go ahead and throw a tantrum..it will make you feel better.
I don't know what your wedding plans are, but i can tell you I saved a ton of money by making most all of my wedding 'things'. I made my own invitations, centerpieces, decorations, wedding favors, thank you cards, etc.
It is somewhat easy to do..you just need time to do it.
I can help if you want some advice--just pm me.
And hang in there, a wedding is about getting married to the man you love and want to spend the rest of your life with--try to hold on to that thought and not let your financial situation take over the day!
smile...

[Ms Coo P'on]

Have a tantrum.....your entitled to it every once in a while.

Congratulation's and I'm so sorry your having to deal with this so close to your wedding date. I've always believed that your big day can and will always be special because it's about the love you have for one another. I completely agree with Jeanettebr and think you should post something about your wedding style or things you are still looking for. Good Luck to both of you!

[Cadnil]

Go ahead, have a tantrum. Then remember that things will work out. Focus on the things you can control; trust and ask God to handle the rest.

On an optimistic note, there are trucking jobs out there. As I listen to trucks whiz by on I-80 (which is my next door neighbor), I recall my friends who got married just over a year ago in the Chicago area. Two weeks before the wedding, and with no notice, the trucking company he worked for went belly up. He found a new job, but it was long haul. So they entered their marriage with him gone most of the time. Last Monday he interviewed for a local haul job, so we're hopeful he gets that. The message for you is that, however difficult, your situation is temporary. If your fiance has to go on the road, that stinks! But it will keep you financially stable until something better opens up, which will happen.

I'm praying for both of you.

[naturallysassy]

Tantrums or short-term crying jags (whichever you prefer; I prefer the latter ) are all right. Especially when they're well-placed like this one would be! Go for it, honey! I'm about due for one myself... WHEW!

Now, even if you don't buy a single thing more for your wedding, are you marrying Mr. Right? If the answer to that is yes (it looks like it is from your avatar... how cute!), then you've already won, my dear. Seriously. This is one of the battles that you guys will fight together, get through, and then come out the other side of it stronger and better than ever. Life has thrown so many curveballs at my husband and I (work stuff, mother-in-law stuff) and we've ducked and kept it moving each time. You two will do the same.

I just sent out some positive vibes and thoughts for you into the universe! Enjoy your wedding with the people you love and enjoy your new husband. It's daunting, you bet, but don't let this steal your joy, girl! After the tears, pick your tiara up and march down that aisle like a SOLDIER!

[carmended]

Aww big hugs to you and hoping everything turns out alright!!!

[jcdamomma]

Have you tried a temp agency...while it might not provide steady work...it might provide a little extra cash to lighten the blow...what about a paper route or babysitting a couple kids...maybe offer before and after school care in the fall???

[kategriffin18]

Thinking of you! I do agree with the tantrum thing!! Sometimes a good cry makes you feel better! If you're doing the best you can to find a job, then you can't do anything else, so please don't beat yourself up about it. Keep couponing, keep your hopes high, and if things don't go right right now, just know that they'll get better....especially with a wonderful hubby.....

AND.....I know it sucks to hear, but weddings are for a day and marriages are for a lifetime....no matter if the day is perfect or not, you'll have your hubby!!!

[Random Refunder]

I'm sorry. I hate to hear this because I've been counting down the days in your signature ever since first reading it.

I'm not familiar with your "house" situation (buying, renting, etc?)

but if you own the home and know that this will mean losing it, would there be any chance of you renting it out to cover the mortgage payment and then moving into a less expensive rental yourself until things pick back up?

In renting your own home out, you could always do something like a "no lease" or a 6 month lease, etc with the impression up front that you reserve the right to give the renter a 30 day notice to vacate in the event it becomes necessary. (This would be to cover you in the event that things kept getting worse and you needed to sell them home to keep from losing it, or even when you're able to resume financially responsibility of it).

on the other hand, your post reads that they "want" to do the cut. Is it definite yet?

I hope the best for you both.

[Drea]

Awww that really is sad for you to go thru right now...but just as they posted above, try not to let the financial part take away from your wedding day....I know its very important but so is this big day for both of you.....even if it means for your future hubby to work away for a little while, things will get better....hopefully...Good luck...Keep us posted..

[Susuz]

I am with everyone, throw the tantrum, it will make you feel better and clear your head! You didn't say what kind of job you are looking for but you may have to think outside the box a little bit to make some extra$$$.

If he has a good job with benefits at least they let you know about the cut ahead of time. Figure out what you can cut now, keep on couponing and check some of the forums on here on how to make a little extra $$. Can you sell some things on ebay, have a garage sale?
I know in my area children's birthday parties are big, can you face paint, make cute favor bags, offer help as a party helper? Check your local farmer's market, see if some of the venders would like help on Saturday (busy day in our area) in return for produce or better yet a flower vendor that could trade out in flowers...
Tell EVERYONE you know you are wanting to make some extra and are looking for a job. Mention it to the cashier at the grocery, the bank, you name it. You never know where the job lead will come from.
Are you in school? Live near a college? Tutors in my area make good money, usually cash and you don't have to have a college degree to tutor here. A lot of students need help over the summer, even if it is just going over spelling lists, simple math, reading.

Mommy's helpers here make $10=$15 cash, driving kids to lessons, the pool, etc at our local private school. (I know, it's crazy, but when both parents work it helps, we have a large Walmart vendor employee base here).

Good luck, and as the others said don't sweat what you don't have, enjoy your day and each other and the fact that at least one of you HAS a job in this economy. Will send good vibes your way...xoxoxoxoxo

[Random Refunder]

I don't know if this is an option or would be of any help, but I ran across the site a few minutes ago and immediately thought about you.

It's called:

Brideshare

apparently free membership and you can share tips and ideas with other brides, even catering, etc. I mean it appears you can also actually, "physically" share things. I'm assuming by that they mean things like cake fountains, wedding decorations, rented equipment, etc. Maybe if you live in an area close enough to someone getting married the same weekend for example, rented equipment like fountains, etc could be rented by one, shared by both, and the cost split 50/50. (among other ideas they have).

I don't know I didn't sign up, but sounds interesting.

Just a thought.

Sher

[momster4de3]

I'm so sorry you are being hit by this economy. It really stinks that it's hurting so many people who work hard.

Your situation sounds like what has happened to our son and soon to be DIL -- to be married July 11 and he lost his job due to economy two weeks ago. She was a teacher in a Christian school that closed it doors in June due to the economy. At least he is able to draw unemployment while he is searching for another job.

You might consider looking into the unemployment -- your fiance's employer should be paying toward unemployment insurance every month and it should be available to him. I'm not sure how truck drivers fare when it comes to this, but it's something to look into now before that time with no job is actually upon you.

Keep your chin up and don't let this ruin your wedding day - cry, scream, and pound on a bed -- but above all else, pray. We're praying for you too.

[kluered13]

have you tried chacha or kgb_?

chacha seems to be always hiring, and kgb just started there tv commericals so they are recruiting more people...

check them out... its not a lot of money, but its enough to make some purchases...

[lovemydh]

Oh maria honey I am so sorry...big (((hugs))) and prayers.

[arlene19]

Hey! I am sorry to hear this also. I hope you find something soon. I have been married to the love of my life for 3 yrs now. My husband's job has taken him to S.Korea for the past year.He will be home in August!! But it was something we had to do and our relationship is strong enough to endure this. Thanks also to Skpe and Magic Jack we have been able to communicate everyday!! Sometimes life just throws you a curve ball but I think that good always comes out it. I believe there is a reason for everything. I will be praying for you both

[DebB831]

I looked up your city and it is not too far from Manteno. I have no idea what your situation is, but I am assuming he drives a company truck and does not have one of his own. Guessing this, going over the road, you can do two things, one drive for the company at a set rate or lease your own truck and be independent, but drive for a certain company. I know in the end you make more being independent, but depending on the economy you could be few and far between with loads which makes your truck payment a bigger pain than the house. I use to work for a trucking company out of the Twin Cities (Minnesota) that picked up out of Sears in Manteno. This was years ago, but we had a regional fleet - they would go as far as the Dakotas, Missouri and Indiana. The drivers were home pretty much every weekend if at all possible, so that worked out great for those with families that they wanted to see often.

If all else fails, and he has to turn to OTR, look into companies that have regional fleets and/or dedicated runs that would be more consistent with being home more often than regular drivers.

Good luck with your wedding - I know it can cost a lot, I was able to do it very cheap, but I also borrowed my dress and made pretty much everything else. I tried to remember that everything will work out in the end and you will have a beautiful wedding no matter what.

[illinisaver]

Don't give up!!! Through these hard times, do continue to support one another!!! Thoughts and prayers are with you and Dave!!!

[gidget0949]

Go ahead and have a tantrum or even a hissy fit. you will feel better for it. keep on believing that eventually everything will work out for you.

[browneyedgrl1110]

My fiance has been applying for other jobs, but no luck, now to make matters worse his mother was just diagnosed with pulmonary fibrosis and may have something wrong with her heart, she is on oxygen and is going to have otherthings done to her, i am taking her where ever she needs to be for the time being.

[jeanettebr]

so sorry to hear this! I can sympathize with being the designated driver...I shuttle both my parents and half brother everywhere they need to go..and it is daunting!
Hang in there

How is the wedding planning coming along?

[Drea]

Thats nice that she has you to help her out so much...I hope your hubby to be finds a good job soon...How are your wedding plans coming along...its right around the corner...