[zemat3]

Wow. Wow.

I can't even imagine what a roller coaster for you! I'm so sorry you didn't get the support you needed when you need it, but all I can say is thank you and thank your DH for his service. He may be Iron Man, but you military wives are made of steel! I am humbled by your sacrifices. On this day and always - thank you.



a free American because of you and yours -

[Quazel]

I am so sorry your husband is wounded. I havent read the other responses, I just need to respond right away because my heart is hurting for your family.

It doesn't matter what has happened to anyone else or the severity, what matters is that a piece of you, of your heart, your life, your being was hurt. I am thankful he is okay but can still understand the terror that rocked you and probably still does. You are correct that everyone grieves differently so allow yourself to grieve and be scared your own way. My brother served in Desert Storm. I had nightmares every night about that call coming. I know it would not have mattered the severity of the call. The reality of where they are and what they are doing is brought right home to us and we fear for them. I hope your husband heals quickly and well and comes home to you very soon. May he be safe while he away.

[Maggiew]

My heart goes out to you.

I cannot imagine the pain and emotions you are going through. Anytime our loved ones are injured is horrible.

But for you to not be there with him makes it even worse.

No matter "how bad" the wound is, the fact is your fears that you live with every day have come true. To make it worse, you can't be there for him...and it sounds as if people don't know how to be there for you.

You have every right to feel the way that you do.

Hugs!!!!!

[piggypup]

@medic2midwife,
I would just like to first, offer a hand of support should you ever need it, if you want to cry, laugh, berate, scream, or just say , i need a living person who gives a damn!, You can call me... I may be miles away but in the sense that matters most I am right there with you, at home praying for our loved ones safe return...I wont go into details because this is your story..but i feel your pain and have felt your rage and had it turn me to mush! right below tour name, medic2 midwife...you had a quote, it says.."I can do this" well, honey, you are! We often have to live now days with more and more deployments after which is the supposed last....it doesnt happen..my moon and stars missed the birth of his 3 baby girls 6 months ago by 3 days...his deployment went into effect 3 days before they came into this world..i have 6 children the trips were not planned but a gift from (God above, they have never met their daddy or felt the love in his touch..but they know his voice...
i want to thank you for being there to support your husband, and i wish i could thank your husband for his sacrifice and the courage he had/has in this trying time...
Please take my number, i will send it in a pm, it will be from patty..piggypup...
If you Ever and i mean EVER need a person to talk to, i dont care if its 4 am you pick up that phone and call someone who cares and I will do everything I can to help! I may only be a voice on the other end of the line, but I am nonetheless a woman who is now living through her husbands 5th call to action in 11 years!
You never need worry that i will " sigh" and tell you to get over it...I will hold your hand for as long as you can keep it on the phone attached to me....we can laugh about when your "iron man" in coming home! and talk about what a time he will have going through security at an airport..or how he will be the object of every childs attention when he talks about how he got those scars...as my husband would say " i earned every gd one of them"
Bless you, dear
I am pm- ing you my phone number too!
SALUTE!

[snowdust]

This is really mixed emotions, truly sorry that your husband suffered a wound, and yet thankful it wasnt worse. Know it hurts you to know he is hurting. Hope they will send him home soonest! Please let him know that many such as I are grateful for his service for our Country. I have always felt that sending the soldier back for tour after tour is far and above the call. God bless him and you for the sacrafices you both have made!!

[allgrandsons]

I have seen your post on AFC until i feel like we are your friends . I will be praying for you & your husband .

We would not have the freedom we have today if it were not for wonderful people like you & your husband . I for one am so greatful . I wish there was something more i could do , but please know that we love & support all our military families .

My husband was in the Army 21 years , but was never wounded other than mental stress which he still lives with today. So i want to send you a big " hug "





























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[missmeglea]

Sending big HUGS to you! I'm also a military spouse, however, my hubby has only been in 2 years and has yet to deploy. (He has gone to Korea for a TDY, but it's not the same ) Anyway, I'm SO relieved that your hubby and his friend were only wounded and nothing worse. I was prepping myself for the worst when reading your post, and praying that everything was ok! If you need anything, someone to vent to, a stranger for support, I'm here

[kizzmet]

I know how you feel my husband got into roll over in Iraq in 2010 he was on a cast when he got home for R&R to see our 1 day old baby. I know this is hard for you but be strong for him and for your kids too, you guys are in my prayers *hugz*

[hotmama111]

HUGS!!!! I am so glad he is okay. I'm sure he is in shock so I'm not surprised that he isn't acting like he normally would. I'm glad he got to call you!

[skbrush]

thinking of you know you have support right here!!

[medic2midwife]

The support ive recieved here has been humbling, touching and deeply appreciated. I often feel very alone- even surrounded by military spouses because few i associate with have been through what we have. I become angry and resentful sometimes because mine has deployed so many times and i get deeply jealous of the wives who get to call their husbands or get to talk on a schedule. I never know what kind of call im getting or who is knocking on my door and im terrified our luck is running dry. Hes in a bad area with worse treatment from both the civilians and the army and im just so exhausted by this life. Hes getting out in feb, but im terrified now after his being injured that he wont make it home. I hate to be anxious in this way but that call shook me to my core and forced me to face things ive ignored for years. Thank you all again for giving me the support i desperately needed.

[allgrandsons]

I will continue to remember your family in my prayers . Maybe you could talk with your Preacher or the Chaplin at the base . Sounds like you need someone for you . So many people think about our soldiers but forget about the families they leave at home .

I love our soldiers & their families . I will pray God sends you the support you need .

[medic2midwife]

Originally Posted by allgrandsons

I will continue to remember your family in my prayers . Maybe you could talk with your Preacher or the Chaplin at the base . Sounds like you need someone for you . So many people think about our soldiers but forget about the families they leave at home .

I love our soldiers & their families . I will pray God sends you the support you need .

I do not share your religious views, so that isnt an option. But thank you for the continued support. <3 i will be fine, just need to reset my mind and keep my eye on the prize.

[CouponSanta]

Sending many prayers and good thoughts your way for a speedy recovery. I don't think people (myself included) realize how tough being/having a spouse in the military can be - your post just reminded all of us!

Thank you for all that YOU and your husband do for our country!

[cajungirl]

Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.

[mycouponaddiction]

I will keep you guys in my prayers, so sorry about this.

[medic2midwife]

I just wanted to thank you all again, especially afc for the touching card i recieved in the mail today.

[Quazel]

How are you holding up??? And how is your DH?

[allpikes]

I am not a military wife or mother but I praise your husband for protecting my family and praise you for the sacrifices you are making as well. I will say a prayer of thanks tonite for sparing his life and a prayer of comfort for you.

[nwfrugalista]

I am so sorry to hear that your husband was wounded, and that you are having to confront this feeling alone, it just is not right. I can relate somewhat b/c my ex was army, then a reservist, and now is back again on active duty, so over the course of our marriage after kids he was deployed for three years' time. (In fact he is deployed now, but in a 'safer' area) The feeling that your writing brought back to me, is that when a loved one is deployed, the families at home have to find ways to push that worry to the back of their minds in order to cope. Hearing any bad news brings the worry back with a vengeance, and the thought that 'it could have been worse,' although thankfully true, is not of comfort. All I can suggest is maybe seeking out a counselor or more formal support group, one facilitated such that you can openly share your feelings and frustrations without having them marginalized? As much as we would hope that fellow military spouses would 'get it' and know the right way to comfort us, it might be that they are minimizing the situation as a way of deflecting their own worries.

My heart is with you, your DH and your children as you survive this.

[KristinNicole2780]

Aww wendy.. I don't get on here as much as I used to so I am just seeing this now. Girl you are tough as nails. We have to be to do this. To raise our children alone not knowing what is going on out there. Knowing at any moment in the blink of an eye we could lose the ones we love most and.. they don't even get paid ENOUGH for that!! I am soo so so sorry I wish I was still there! People do have a lot of weird coping mechinisms when it comes to this stuff but it would be nice if they could once just put themselves in your shoes but unfortunately most everyone is selfish and believe it or not.. jealous of the attention you get from something negative that happened to you. Hence some of the comments from the other military wive/friends. Not saying everyone.. but its just something I had noticed. Hang in there lady. Let him know we are very proud of him! and proud of you! ok. I am just kind of rambling now. I am thinking of you!! and your fam!! Miss you!

[mforward]

Medic - I just saw this today, I am sorry to hear of your news. I am sorry you did not get he support you were seeking from your close friends and family. You are a strong person and I admire you and thank you and your husband for your sacrifice.
Hang in there!

[nowpoints]

medic2midwife-support to you, hugs and I agree totally with you about the reactions being so casual. I wish I could send you a load of supportive, compassionate, perceptive and unselfish people to encamp around you right now. Zo

[medic2midwife]

You guys are amazing, ive been bombarded with cards and the support here. My husbands injury healed slowly at first but now its looking better, unfortunately he accidentally tore a part of the wound open so its starting to heal all over again. They were on a communication black for for nearly 2 weeks, heard from him two days ago and not since, he said its been pretty nasty there so theyre staying busy. His commander saw him changing his bandages and apologized for not being able to send him home, he will have some nasty scarring but healing burns always look worse than the burn itself so im sure it was quite the site.

[Dagar]

Medic2midwife,

My husband's ship got hit years ago...and there is never enough information you can get. And even when your husband calls it is not enough until you get your hands on him. We lost a close family friend in Iraq. It makes this all hit home. Glad he is doing okay. Take care of yourself and the family and prayers he will come home soon.

A NavyWife (retired!)