[twilcn]

My DS is now 3 yrs old and doesn't like the potty. I have tried everything from sitting on the potty to trips to the toy store with the sticker chart..I'm so fraustrated. He'll go when someone is around for awhile then won't and he'll go maybe once a week when he's home. I let him pick out his new "BIG BOY" undies and seems like nothing is helping.
Also should I be concerned on how he gags (sorry it's gross) at his poo when he is changed. I don't think the pull-ups are helping at all,as they are like diapers and diapers now a days pulls the wetness away from the skin.
I'm willing to try anything and listen to any advice that anyone has.
Any Advice is appericated

[bette]

You need a few naked days! Seriously, let him run around the house completely naked for a few days and I guarantee he'll be potty trained. It is like a miracle cure. Just plan on staying home and don't make a big fuss if he goes on the floor, it will happen. Since he is naked, he will be able to go as soon as he feels it. Make a HUGE deal of it when he goes in the potty. Dance, sing, whatever. After a few days, he'll want to go on the potty all the time(as long as you can get clothes back on him!). Good luck!

[Holli0303]

We did the naked thing too. It was warmer and we spent alot of time outside. It works! There was a huge article about it years back saying it was much cheaper and quicker to get your carpet cleaned than to keep buying pull ups. This method even had a catchy name, wish I could remember what he called it. Anyway, naked works!

[twilcn]

Will this work even if he doesn't like to be without his shirt and pullup???

[couponclipper]

I totally agree with Bette! I did something similiar to Bett's way. My suggestion is to start as soon as the weather is warm & comfortable enough to wear a tank top & shorts...its easier to potty train plus you will need to be at home. When my boy was 3...I bought the Garanimals clothing (Cheap clothes in Walmart) to potty train him in. I would put him in his tank top & shorts without any underwear or pullups to catch the accident that he made. We had a playroom with a indoor/outdoor carpet so if he had an accident which he did for about 3 times...it scared him to death when #2 happened to fall out of his shorts... he caught on after awhile and wanted to be the bigger boy. It will happen...you just have to have the time, patience, & cleanups of accidents.

[obe]

We put cheerios in the toilet and he would try and hit the cheerios with his pee stream. It was fun for him.

[twilcn]

thanks...I don't have to wait for it to WARM UP it is always WARM in FLORIDA
I appericate all the advice I will try this. Should I hide the pull ups as well so he doesn't grab one and put it on?? Should I put a pull up on him at night???

[targetaddict]

Definitely put the pull ups somewhere he can't reach them. DD is fully potty trained during her waking hours, but if she can access a pull up, she'll grab one right before she needs to poop and just go in there!! Talk about frustration!

Since she can't reach them she's forced to use the potty, and it's not really an issue.

Now, wish us luck as we try to conquer naptime and potty training!

[poshpoodle]

We did M&M's as rewards for ging potty in the potty! I agree that you should sing and dance- throw a party- whatever it takes- we did this as well! Also, I would work on daytime potty training first- then work on night time. When you do start working on night time you may want to let him pick out character sheets- you know superman, etc...and tell him superman does not want to get wet- we did this as well! Good luck!

[mckivigl]

My DS was the same way. I just put him in big boy pants and everytime he wet himself I made him get a bath but during bath time there was no playing. It was strickly to clean him up. I went through a ton of paper towels and clorox wipes and washed a couple of loads of extra laundry but boy it was worth it. In 1 weekend he was trained during the day. Nights took a bit more but that shortly followed. He just didn't get anything to drink after dinner and that worked great.

Good luck. I know it can be frustrating!

[Deafmom2004]

Thank you all and I have 3 years old son too who don't want to use potty. I will try to use naked method & M&M as reward and see if it will helps him to catch on to tell me want to use potty. Talk about the cost to spend on pulls up and diapers, oh boy!! LOL

[suzyqwerty1234]

stop using the pull ups. I have heard good things about the Naked and $75 method ( 75 for the carpet cleaning). With my dd is set s timer for 30-45 min. after we ate, and when the timer went off she HAD to go try to potty, if she didn't pee the i set the timer for 15min. ( I got tired of nagging her to go pee all the time). Also be low key about mistakes- just have him "help" u clean up the mess and change the clothes without much comment. Good luck, it's a process!

[twilcn]

Thanks everyone!! Everyone's option is just so great! Thank You for helping.
Update. I put up the pullups this morning and told DS that we were freshly out and he had to use his "BIG BOY" undies SO FAR so good no accidents. I keep telling him SpongeBob doesn't like to get wet or dirty so you need to put the pee pee-poo in the potty ..He also trying to get all of his stickers today as he wants to go and buy a game for this new click start computer. Thank You for everyone's help..It's trial and error sometimes just have to find out what works out best.

[mckivigl]

Good luck today! Just take deep breaths because it can be challenging!

[twilcn]

believe me with a 3 yr old everyday is challenging. But it's amazing how many hoops you have to jump through and fire you have to walk on for these guys. but at the end of the day you can laugh and say that's my little baby and it makes it all worth while.

[mckivigl]

Originally Posted by twilcn

believe me with a 3 yr old everyday is challenging. But it's amazing how many hoops you have to jump through and fire you have to walk on for these guys. but at the end of the day you can laugh and say that's my little baby and it makes it all worth while.

Isn't that the truth!!!

[suzyqwerty1234]

btw save the pull ups, they come in handy after he is potty trained , for example, if he gets the runs. Or if he has a relapse u can use them as a threat ( go to the potty or ill put u in baby diapers) All I have to do to my dd is show her a pull up ( shes 3) and she gets upset. ( i only do this after the 3rd time she pees her pants, otherwise i just clean her up). best of luck

[aidan&logansmommy]

I agree with the others- giving up the pull-ups worked wonders! I put my son into underwear and we stayed home. We used the timer, stickers, and prizes. He was completely trained in 3 days and has never relapsed. The "all or nothing" approach just seemed to work better! Good luck!

[mochanchan]

I agree w/everyone else. I trained my DS when he was 2 and went straight from diapers to big boy pants and never looked back. Yes, there were accidents but he would help me clean them up and we would talk about how much better it would have been to just use the potty instead of cleaning it off the floor. I didn't have the night time problem though because he would hold it even when he was in diapers. I hope it goes well! Good luck!

[Gresh]

My son is almost 3 yrs old and he doesn't seem to care about using the potty yet. The first day I tried to potty train him, he would pee in his underwear and just kept walking around and playing, he didn't care if he was wet. Do you think that means he is not ready to be trained?? I wish he would get trained so that I would only have to buy diapers for my 5 month old.

[twilcn]

Originally Posted by Gresh

My son is almost 3 yrs old and he doesn't seem to care about using the potty yet. The first day I tried to potty train him, he would pee in his underwear and just kept walking around and playing, he didn't care if he was wet. Do you think that means he is not ready to be trained?? I wish he would get trained so that I would only have to buy diapers for my 5 month old.

I know the feeling..My DS would do the same just keep it up don't give up

SO Far so good he's going to the potty No ACCIDENTS TODAY ..He was put in a pull up for naptime and little did i know but he held the poo till he got it on.
It's going to take some time..

[suzyqwerty1234]

keep an eye on what time of day he has a BM, and have him sit and try for a while, with a book, during that time. and if he does poo ,then its party time

[LisaArbo]

Originally Posted by aidan&logansmommy

I agree with the others- giving up the pull-ups worked wonders! I put my son into underwear and we stayed home. We used the timer, stickers, and prizes. He was completely trained in 3 days and has never relapsed. The "all or nothing" approach just seemed to work better! Good luck!

I did this too! My DS (youngest of 3 boys) would rather go in his diaper than take the time to go to the bathroom and use the toilet. I finally just said "this is it!" I brought down his big-boy underpants and explained to him that he was going to wear these now, because he was a big boy. I put a timer in the room where we were and literally about every 20 min. I had him sit on the potty chair or took him into the bathroom.

I acted like we just won the lottery every time he went, but especially when he went #2.

After about a day or two.....he was really getting the hang of it, and it worked really well.

One day he just went to the potty and went #2 by himself. I was THRILLED!

Don't worry about night time just yet. I've heard that it takes kids (especially boys) a while to master that. In fact, my 4 yr. old has the occassional accident if he drinks too much after dinner. It's hard to tell your child they can't have anymore to drink! If I'm ever concerned, I just put a Pull Up on him.

Good luck!!!!!

[latrice0723]

When my DS was 2 (now 8) I took my two weeks vacation and stayed home with him to potty train. I made him sit on the potty most of the time throughout the day and within 1 week he was potty trained.
I am now trying to potty train my DD (16 months). I can't get her to sit on the potty no longer than a few seconds. She has gone #1 in the potty twice and the other times she just stands up and does it on the floor. I'm really not forcing the issue as of right now I just want her to get use to going over to the potty and sitting on it when I say let's go potty.

[LyndaSLP]

This story should make y'all laugh:

Two months prior to my son turning 3, he started telling us that "when I 3, I pee in potty". We hadn't been talking about potty training... his teacher must've said something to him. He would tell us this, we would smile and say, "Sounds like a plan!" and go on with our day.

In other words: we didn't make a big deal about it.

The morning of his birthday, I went into his room and woke him up. He awoke and immediately began crying. Why? His words: "I don't want to pee in the potty today."

I told him we didn't need to work on using the potty today.

For the next 2 weeks (I am not exaggerating!), he would have a daily cry. About what? Turning 3. He'd cry and say things like:

"I don't like 3."
"I want to be 2"
"I love my diaper."
"I am not using the potty. I can wear my diaper and be a big boy."

DH & I would just smile and say, "Ok... you can love your diaper... you can wear your diaper... "

In other words: DH & I were not stressing...heck, we weren't even TALKING about potty training....

My favorite conversation during this 2 week timeframe:
I am changing DS's diaper. DS says, "I love my diaper"
I reply: Yes...
DS: I always wear diapers.
I reply: Yes...
DS: I not wearing big boy underwear. Never!
I reply: Ok... but one day diapers will be too small for you. They don't make diapers in my size or Daddy's size.
DS: Oh. HarrisTeeter doesn't have diapers for Daddy?
I reply: No
DS: *real quiet...* That's ok Mama... you can make me diapers when I am bigger. Joann's had diaper fabric and you have a sewing machine.



The child had it all figured out.

Lucky for me....he couldn't resist the Blue's Clues underwear I bought him.


Moral of the story for all those who are currently trying to potty train: It'll happen. Honest. It will.