We got married in 2002. I think ours was about $4,500. Dh and I paid for the service - a ceremony at a local wedding chapel for about $500.
I got a very inexpensive dress and veil (total of about $400), got the cake from a great German bakery that is not known for wedding cakes, for about $100.
I paid $200 for the flowers (just my boquet and corsages for my maid of honor, sister, mothers and grandmothers, and boutineers for the best man, usher, and my dad.
My inlaws paid for the honeymoon to Cancun. My inlaws also paid for dh's tux and his dad's tux (his dad was the best man). I had one bridesmaid (my maid of honor) and told her to buy a pastel dress.
My parents paid about $2000 for the reception. We didn't care about a dj or dancing - we rented a side room at Pappasitos, and it was closed off from the rest of the restaurant. We had 30 people there since we got married in TX and most of our families didn't come (they are in MD and NJ). We had fajitas for the buffet and pitchers of margaritas.
We got lots of help from our friends and family, too. Dh's best friend is an amazing photographer, and his present to us was the wedding pictures. My sister-in-law plays the oboe, and she performed the music before the ceremony. Our old college buddy volunteered to videotape for us.
I didn't want my parents to have to spend a lot of $ on the wedding, especially since both dh and I were employed and able to pay for some of it on our own. Plus, my parents were able to give us a nice check for a present - it included the money that we didn't spend on the wedding
It was so much fun, and I am glad that we didn't go overboard and start our marriage with a lot of debt. It is only one day. Your marriage is the rest of your life.
sahm to DD (5 1/2) and twin DDs (almost 3)
You must be the change you wish to see in the world - Mahatma Ghandi